Before we get too deep into the seriousness of effective parenting, I would like to start off with a short but absolutely hilarious video by one of my favorite satire YouTube personalities ENJOY:
Now that we have established some levity and maybe even saw a part of ourselves in the words spoken by comedian JP Sears, let’s begin on this journey to becoming a better parent!
The first and foremost thing to remember about being a parent is your child needs your love. Kids understand a lot more than we give them credit for and even when they cannot put it into words, not feeling love on a daily basis can really affect them.
We have all heard the saying “it takes a village to raise a child”. While that may be true, in today’s day in age we don’t really live in villages.
Some of us live in communities or neighborhoods where being friendly and getting to know one another is not the norm. So, are we saying that if you don’t have a village you cannot effectively raise your child?
Absolutely not! That is why I mentioned love as being one of the most powerful things a child needs.
Love is not all kisses and hugs; love can also take the form of discipline. As a parent it is important to understand that.
Just because you discipline does not mean you don’t love, even if the discipline is a spanking or taking away their favorite toy.
I think all too often parents feel guilty and think their child will interpret their hard hand as a sign they do not love their them. Here is where the cycle continues and to make up for feeling guilty they “spare the rod and spoil the child”.
Parenting is about balance and not acting on emotions. We are all in this journey together and we are all going to mess up!
Good thing is that children are resilient and are full of unconditional love! The trick is to never give up on being the best parent you can be!